Comments on: If God can change me, why hasn’t He?

By: Chris Stump

Chris Stump — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 20:25:24 +0000

Hi change,

It’s so true what you are saying! Our identity is not in what we struggle with, who we are attracted to, or what people say about us. It’s in Christ. I’m glad you found this site. I hope you find some helpful information on here to encourage and equip you. Let us know if you need anything. Blessings!

By: change

change — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 16:14:11 +0000

Its relieving to know that homosexuality isn’t my identity, or who
i am, but, rather, what i”m struggling with. I just found this
wedsite after feeling like junk for pornography. I’ve grown up in a
Christian home, and that makes expressing my problems very
uncomfortable. I’ve struggled with this for too long. I’ve never
fully given in, I’m physically and romantically attracted to
females, and i want to marry someday, but i also have behind the
closet attractions for guys. I feel like part of my problem is that
i never had any good relationships with guys. I mentally matured
way too early, so i found all my males classmates annoying. I
eventually hung out with only girls. I never played the “Manly”
sports, which where i went to school automatically meant you were
gay. I was always told by my classmates, that i was gay, and i
bought into their lies. I know now that God’s love is far greater,
and i want to make the change. In the words of Corrie ten-Boom,
“there is no pit so deep, that He is not deeper still.”

By: 1cor611

1cor611 — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 01:07:55 +0000

Wow, thank you Chris. That actually
meant a lot. God’s been working on me a lot to have as much grace
with others as I would like them to have with me. I’ll def’ be
praying God give grace and patience to all while you guys search
for the right person for the job – and that He lead you to the
right person as well. Thank you, not only to you Chris, but to
everyone at Exodus as well. Honestly I didn’t know how my last
comment would be recieved, it is SUCH(!) a blessing to see how much
you guys really do care and want to help us. Thanks again guys!!!
God bless!

By: Chris Stump

Chris Stump — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 13:45:52 +0000

Homescoolmag,

Thank you for your comment. I do apologize that you or anyone has felt neglected or ignored on here. Please know that you’re comments are read, prayed over, and appreciated. Unfortunately at this time we don’t have a specific person to devote as much time as needed to the youth website. That is something that we are working hard to correct. But please be gracious with us as we are searching. However I do appreciate your comment and challenge for those of us who do moderate and manage the website currently. I for one know exactly where you are coming from, and will do the absolute most I can in my capacity to respond to you and encourage you and all the others who are coming here for answers and help. Again, I’m very sorry for the lack of communication.

Blessings!

By: 1cor611

1cor611 — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:23:58 +0000

btw. jajekawa, the truth is – homosexuality is a lie. The formula
for surviving – every day praying that God will help you over come
the lie. How do you over come it? Not by ceasing to have homosexual
tendencies, but by simply praying when ever your tempted – God Your
word says that this is a sin and that it has no part with You -
please, help me to abstain from thinking about it. Help me to
abstain from fulfilling it. You make me righteous, not by my ‘good’
decisions, but Your Son’s blood makes me righteous and nothing else.
So please help me not to feel condemned when over and over I feel
like a homosexual, help me to not be condemned when I fall all the time.
Help me to get back up, to say that even though I’m so confused, I
will live my life by the light Your word provides, please protect
me and help me to just live for You’ – the second thing too, is
just read the Bible. IT’s the only way you’ll make it. People WILL
LET YOU DOWN. Pray, read, ask God to open your eye’s and heal your
aching soul. And really bro’ I can just say hold on. He’ll get you
through it. My fight has taken me deep into depression on several
accounts. I’ve nearly killed myself twice since accepting Christ,
it’s normal to be mad, frustrated, and confused when dealing with
homosexuality. All I can say is just keep holding on to Christ.
He’ll make it personal, He’ll make it real, and He’ll rescue you in
the end. You just have to trust. Try committing the first six verses
of psalm 37 to memory, and remember that prayer when you feel tired
and worn out from ‘fighting’ the urges and the tendencies (those
verses have saved my life several times – also Jeremiah 29:11 has
had a profound impact on me as well). As far as the masculinity
thing, just pray God show you how to be more of a guy, it what I pray regularly . He will, just trust and obey -
and remember that no matter how many times you fall, He will help
you back up! when you feel down, send
a shout out, there’s no reason why any one who’s on here
consistently (like me) can’t be a bit of a support groupy for you!
God bless man!

By: 1cor611

1cor611 — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 00:12:00 +0000

lobo…I can relate to everything you’ve said – except I’m both
sexually, and romantically drawn toward guys. The road to
abstaining from fulfilling the flesh is hard and know you’re not
battling it alone. You have Jesus supplying you, and me and
countless others fighting with you. When paul uses the word ‘fight’
in the bible, the greek actually means like a gladiator fights in
the arena – so it is a very hard fight. But I feel your
frustration. I too am frustrated, with everyone most of the time
and I also suffer depression and sadness, sometimes I get
especially frustrated with exodus. I wish some of the people on
here would do a little more with guys like you and me. I mean, we’re
here, we see our problem, were looking for help and direction, and
yet they never seem to reciprocate – make any sense??? no. I have
only once been told by someone who had to deal with what I’m
dealing that God brought them through. The personal connection that
he was talking to me and no one else encouraged me so much, it
seems like pastors, Christian leaders and exodus youth workers
would do the same…maybe things would change if we all took the risk
of personally encouraging one another during this race. But it
seems like most Christians, pastors, exodus youth workers and the
like have a problem with getting in touch with us individually
(albeit via internet) for the pure reason of just saying ‘I’ve been
there, God brought me through that – hang on’…but so goes our
generation. God give us grace to make it.

By: lobo123

lobo123 — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 16:56:34 +0000

hey jajekawa, i know this is frustrating, trust me. I myself dont
know who to turn to. It seems easier to let everything go and just
accept it. But then at the same time you dont want to because you
want to be with god. I cant help thinking, what if i die today,
will i have the same chance as anyone else to go to heaven? Or am i
condemned for the rest of my life. Last night i had this dream
where i was in the middle of exchanging vows at my wedding. When it
was my turn to say the big ”i do”, i froze. I no longer wanted to
get married because i felt that i could never love her, nor any
girl. My biggest fear is growing up with these (SSA) and because of
it never have a normal life. When i was 13 i looked up gay porn for
the first time. The images are still stuck in my head and they’ll
probably never go away. I was just curious, i mean i didnt really
think i would eventually learn to like it. I don’t think i was born
gay, i liked girls since i was in first grade. But now since the
porn, i don’t like them sexually as much as guys. Its like a
switched the two in my head. I want to be in love with a girl, but
i don’t want to have sex with them. I think about having sex with a
guy but i don’t want to have a relationship with them. The worst
part about that is, some of those guys are my friends. I have all
the signs of being gay. I hang out with mostly girls because i feel
more comfortable around them, more normal. Again, the fact that im
sexually attracted to guys. I don’t know if im really classifies as
gay or not, so i don’t know where to look for answers. All the ones
Ive gotten say that ill be stuck like this for the rest of my life.
Even my friends notice im depressed most of the time and some of
them ask me if im gay or not. I hate this! I hate when they ask me
that, they dont know what im going through. They think that being
gay is so simple, that if you are just come out and admit it! Then
what happens after you do, nothing changes. All the scriptures
about homosexuality in the bible, just tell you not to do it. God
doesn’t tell you how to deal with it. If it were so simple as he
puts it, why am i writing this?

By: PennMom

PennMom — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 11:51:04 +0000

Hi…I’m the mom of a 19 year old who has been struggling with SSA
since age 12, possibly even younger. I recently found out she has
been involved in a relationship with another female, same age,
whose parents approve of their relationship. We as followers of
Christ are at a loss as to how to help her. When I try to talk with
her about it, she gets very angry and is not open to any discussion
about the situation. We are continuing to pray for her and love
her. She is seeing a counselor, but from what she tells me, the
counselor condones the homosexual lifestyle, so this is definitely
not helping her. I do not believe she is at a point where she wants
to make a decision to change, esp. since her relationship with the
other person has been going on for at least 2 years. Any advice is
appreciated. I know the Lord is sovereign and He has a plan and
purpose for each of us. I didn’t tell our pastor yet since he is
new to our church. I haven’t had success in finding a counselor in
our area either.

By: jajekawa

jajekawa — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 06:16:35 +0000

So what your trying to say is that its okay to have thoughts of men
and to like men but just dont have sex with him? I’m stuck here.
Homosexuality, most of the times, come with a personality. Its very
feminine. Not all the time. So a man can be just like a chick but
not have any sexual encounters with men? I am struggling here.

By: Frederick

Frederick — Fri, 21 May 2010 17:24:48 +0000

I certainly don’t know why God is letting me go through this, but i
believe He has a purpose for it