Comments on: Struggling with Pornography? There’s hope…

By: sircubano

sircubano — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 02:01:26 +0000

@Prov423 and @shauntonio

I can understand where both of you are coming from in your situations. Everyday I struggled with my thoughts because of how scarred I was from my own sinful activities. I have a best friend who has been my brother since 8th grade and I lusted over him for a long time. I told him about it after a while because it got me feeling so shameful and guilty everyday. I couldn’t even look at him because of how I felt. However, this is the same friend that helped me when I reached out for help on the issue with homosexuality for the first time. With time the lust stopped because I kept praying to God for strength, but at the same time I placed the situation in his hands. You cannot fight Satan through your own understanding and strength, but through God’s understanding and strength. This is a very tough battle to deal with, but as my friend always tells me it will all turn to dust one day and that the only thing in life that matters is the desire and passion to pursue and glorify God. I can tell you that it’s all the matter at beating Satan with an iron fist. Of course, get into the word, but also memorize scripture. Keep scripture with you at all times. Some great scriptures to look at are Romans 8, 1 Peter 1:13, Philippians 4:8, Isaiah 55:7-8, Ephesians 4: 22-24, Romans 12:2, Philippians 3: 13-14, Philippians 4:13, Isaiah 43:18-19, Romans 8:31, and Psalms 27: 1-3. Memorizing scripture and prayer are your two strongest weapons against Satan. Both you can beat this. I know you can. You guys need to surround yourself with people that will lift you up and encourage you to keep fighting. Also have fellowship with those that have that desire to pursue and glorify God. The bible say that you will know a person by their fruits. You want to be with people that produce good fruits. Of course do not mistake my words by thinking perfection because no one is perfect except God. Also have accountability partners. Have people that will hold you accountable for your actions. Do anything it takes to keep away from the porn even if it means a commitment in staying away from the computer. Also STAY AWAY from secular music and that includes Lady Gaga. I learned recently (the hard way) that music is a powerful thing and that Satan can and will use music to destroy your life. Fill your Mp3s or ipods with christian music. Also another great thing to do is to listen to audio sermons podcasts. Two of my favorite preachers are Paul Washer and John Piper. Just look them up on Itunes in the podcast section. When you are filled with carnal thoughts start praying and quoting scriptures that deal with having a pure thought life (refer to the ones from the list I gave ya’ll). Like I said you guys can beat this. DO NOT let Satan make you think that you can’t fight this because through Christ anything is possible even overcoming Homosexuality, porn, or even a dirty state of mind. I will pray for you guys that God gives you favor and that you will have the strength everyday to overcome your battles… get into the word and pray and be held accountable!! : )

By: shauntonio

shauntonio — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 04:26:27 +0000

hi im new to this group i also have trouble with pornography. im not gay but i look at gay porn most of the time. i really need help. i told myself to stop and pray to god to help me stop but the urge is messing up my life at school. when im bored i think about porn when i get home after practice when everyones asleep i look at it. i told myself it stops today! im reading the bible more and doing more activities outside i keep having these dirty thought in my mind plz help

By: Prov423

Prov423 — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 16:24:23 +0000

Hi, Im severely struggling with my thoughts. I don’t want to date
men or kiss them which i find both completely gross. but i am
continuing to have sexual thoughts about men. About 4 months
ago i looked at pornography for the first time and i have been
struggling with it. I am a very good christian but my thoughts
about these things continuously get inthe way of god and my life.

if anyone can give me any advice that’d be great.

By: Highwayman

Highwayman — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 22:15:58 +0000

Hey Iron Hammer, I just found this site today from a book I’ve been
reading. It’s called Every Young Man’s Battle it’s taken from the
point of a straight guy (for all but one chapter which is what led
me here) and it deals a lot with the Masturbation/Pornography
struggles or addictions. I would say to give it a read through and
maybe go through the workbook with your best friend or someone else
who you can trust since it relates to any guy that has and sort of
problem with masturbation or pornography or anywhere further down
the road in sexual sin. It mixes scripture on how God wants us to
be sexually pure but it mixes it with verses like Romans 8:35-39 in
which nothing will stop God from loving us. I haven’t finished it
yet but it has been helpful on ’starving the sumo (sex drive)’ as
it’s stated in the book. So far it’s been helping a lot and I think
anyone who has any masturbation or pornography struggles should try
out!

By: Iron Hammer

Iron Hammer — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 02:33:31 +0000

I have a problem (maybe) that relates to this. I’ve recently told
my best friend and parents that I am struggling with SSA. I am now
going to a psychologist who told me about this website, just
recently. I completely understand why I am the way that I am, and
my parents could not be more supportive. I don’t look at porn
regularly, (in the past, it was more of a special occasion type
thing). So I only look at porn once every couple of weeks, maybe a
little more or less. I don’t really call that an addiction,
considering I can be pretty confident in saying that I can put it
to an end at any time, and recently, I have. My problem is that I
usually masturbate without porn, just visualizing fantasies. In
fact, I have the problem of thinking about my best friend when I do
(which is selfish, and I’ve read the article about avoiding lust
over your friends). I know that’s wrong, and I feel I am moving
away towards that. My main question is… It’s healthy for a guy to
masturbate and normal to do it regularly. If you don’t, your body
finds a way to “get it out” anyway. So how is it possible to
masturbate and to avoid these lusts towards SSA in my head? What
does God say about masturbation? How am I to properly do it? Thanks

By: Freedomseeker

Freedomseeker — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 06:06:01 +0000

I’m also struggling with this. Just like Frank, I’m living a double
life. Sometimes, I don’t even want to lead the praise and worship
at my church because my guilt is killing me. How can I lead the
people at my church to worship God, if I’m a sinner in disguise. I
often feel such a hypocrite. Sometimes, I feel so hopeless and
desperate because I’m battling this by myself. I’ve joined
Livinghope, and it’s an encouraging community. Unfortunately,
though, I still sometimes feel alone. In theory, I’m free, but in
reality, i’m enslaved by porn and masturbation. Please help.

By: ineedhelpgod

ineedhelpgod — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 04:52:54 +0000

i praise you so much! I can tell God has done a wonder in your soul. I have been addicted to pornography for only a year. I hated every minute of it. Today i tried to stop the urge but i had to look at pictures, it was on my dads laptop…. i found out i got over 200 viruses on the computor. God has been telling me to stop, i have been ignoring him and people have noticed changes in me, my personality, the way i act around people, i wish i could have gotten myself out of it sooner. I have wrecked my life at such a young age and i’m so sorry for myself. Thanks so much i will be using your tips every time i get an urge but please all of you pray for me, not just that i won’t look at porn but for healing, of course all of you will be in my prayers.

God Bless All of You.

By: ca

ca — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 18:33:13 +0000

carmenrhea said: "I’m not gay. I just look at gay porn and get aroused by it. Does that make sense?"

The Bible says when you sow to life you reap life and when you sow to corruption you reap corruption. In other words, the more you watch porn, the more you want to watch porn.

God design our spirit, soul and body in such a way that the principle of sow and reaping applies.

You sow the Word of God into your spirit by meditating (thinking on) the Word of God. Then you spirit will bring forth that Word of God into your life. Similarly if you meditate on (think on) porn, you are sowing that into your spirit. Then you spirit will work to bring that forth into your life.

Your spirit is like soil in that it has the ability to cause things to grow and develop.

This is God’s design because God’s design for you life is development. God’s design is development because development is dynamic and exciting.

Therefore, you should always be thinking about what you want to develop in your life that will bring excitement to you.

By: ca

ca — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 18:23:55 +0000

You forgot the most important one, which is where you will find Jesus in you being the conqueror in that "I am more than a conqueror through Him who loves me." And that is…

#5 "Walk in the Spirit [of God] and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh."

The closer you are with God, the more your thoughts are filled with the Word of God, the more you think on God, the less desire you will have for any kind of sin.

In other words, by adopting God’s thoughts and ways (thinking and behaviour) you find yourself at a place where you are fulfilling all the lusts that you desire – which is none. "Yeah, I’m sinning all I want or desire to. I have no want or desire to sin."

By: HealingForTheSoul

HealingForTheSoul — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:52:20 +0000

Sappy,

I do know what you mean and have been there! The best kind of help in your situation is getting connected with others in either counseling or in a group that’s confidential and safe. I have some ideas for you if you’d like to shoot me a private email or call: help@healingforthesoul.org or 719-590-7685.

Meanwhile, some good information can be found at settingcaptivesfree.org.

Hope to connect with you soon,
Jayson Graves