Comments on: Starting the Journey

By: harte123

harte123 — Mon, 24 May 2010 19:25:23 +0000

well… im confused because i was always straight had boyfriends
and was happy, but then there was this one girl who starting
talking to me and texting me. I dont know if it was just all the
attention i was getting from her that made me think i can do it and
before i knew it we became involved in a relationship. We tried to
keep it secret because i didnt want people to know but it got out.
Now it has ruined some of my closest frindships and i feel just
horrible. But when its just us two i fell everything is ok but i do
get these doubts frequently and i look at myself in disgust. I want
my life to go back to how it was before her but i cant get the
courage to end it all because she always is telling me how she
thinks about me all the time and that im the first person to ever
make her this happy. What do i do?? I love her as a friend and dont
want to cause any pain. I’ve alredy caused so many people hurt and
pain idk how much more i can take. I pray but never seem to get an
answer and im really in need for help…..

By: Snipergrrl

Snipergrrl — Fri, 14 May 2010 00:01:49 +0000

I am a lesbian, and I’m also a christian. I know that everything
happens for a reason, but I refuse to give up my sexual preference.
I believe they make me who I am and that if I did it would be more
of an insult to God, because he made me this way. What I’m saying
is, am I wrong and did God make a mistake in creating me this way.
Or am I right, and is God as perfect as I believe him to be and
there nothing flawed my sexuality.

By: Tryin

Tryin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:28:25 +0000

I’ve found this site so helpful, and it’s really helped me understand my same sex attractions. But I really need help because I’m struggling so much over this girl at my school, I have a hard time controlling my desires for her. She has no idea how I feel about her, so I’m tempted to satisfy my Desires in a very subtle way, like putting my arm around her or being very physically close to her. I know how wrong and selfish my desires are, and I absolutely hate it, I just need some help getting through this rough time, AND controlling myself.

By: iPunkey

iPunkey — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 20:11:33 +0000

Um, im not sure whats going on, but i know i need help… from anyone.. something.. something.. My names christian, im 14, and i struggle with same-sex attraction.. i often give into sexual temptation.. and do a lot of things i shouldn’t do, ive struggled with this since i was 9. i hate it. i have tried to kill myself 9 times over it =\ but yet im still alive.. i guess what im asking is.. im not sure where i was suppose to ask this.. but can someone help me? i need someone who can help me thru this. be healed.. i need someone i can rely on.. at the moment.. i have a big problem with one of my friends.. i told him how i struggle, and he said he struggles too, i fell in love when he said that, but then he took it back, now i am extremely depressed, and suicidal.. can someone please help me? i have pushed him away, and now we don’t talk.. but i miss him, and feel like crap for doing that… please.. can anyone help me?! please ?!

By: Chris Stump

Chris Stump — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 14:39:42 +0000

Hi Prov423, thanks for sharing this. When I’ve struggled with thoughts constantly berating my mind, I’ve had to think of taking those thoughts captive and releasing them to God. “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn is a great book to read for this issue. It doesn’t deal with homosexual temptation, but the same insights and tools can apply and be helpful to your struggle. Also, don’t live in shame or frustration. God’s grace is sufficient and He is not condemning you. So don’t beat yourself up.

By: Prov423

Prov423 — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:35:18 +0000

Hi, Im severely struggling with my thoughts. I don’t want to date
men or kiss them which i find both completely gross. but i am
continuing to have sexual thoughts about men. I am a very good
christian but my thoughts about these things continuously get in
the way of god and my life. if anyone can give me any advice that’d
be great.

By: Chris Stump

Chris Stump — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 15:28:29 +0000

Hi thegospel… I know where you are, because I’ve been there myself. Some things I have used to walk in freedom and stay in freedom are such things as accountability. It’s really important to have someone to talk to, to flesh things out with. Keeping your thoughts in your head only make you more confused. So talking with someone when you’re struggling, frustrated, tired, can be a huge help. Make sure they are safe people who will bring a Christian perspective to your situation. If you fall, get right back up again and let someone know. Shed light on the darkness. Also, don’t get stuck in a cycle of sin. Falling can bring a lot of shame and guilt. Shame and guilt can breed hatred for ourselves. Hatred can lead to apathy – and apathy can lead to more acting out. Don’t live in the shame and guilt – Christ has set you free! So if you fall, don’t stay there in guilt. Confess it to the one who promised to forgive, and get right back up again. Embrace HIS grace for your life. A third thing is to know where your identity lies. It’s not in who you are attracted to, it’s not how many times you fall down, and it’s not in who other people label you to be. Your identity is in Christ, and you are a saint saved by grace. Walk in that identity and you’ll begin to see the struggle differently. It no longer has the power over you it once did. Finally, get plugged in to community with other believers, people who can walk with you, carry you when they need to, and listen. All these things I have found helpful, I hope they are for you as well.

By: thegospelofmatthew

thegospelofmatthew — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 05:11:11 +0000

i am so confused. I just dont know what to do. I’ve pretty much
come to the conclusion that I’m gay. But i DONT WANT TO BE. It’s
like I’m wired the wrong way or something. When i first knew this,
i just held it in and thought i could keep it from everyone,
including myself. But, I’ve took my pain and indulged into things
that arent good. I find myself looking at men lustfully and feeling
sexually attracted to them. I look up male porn every once in a
while and I know its wrong but i just cant stop indulging. I dont
plan on every “coming out” But i need some methods on dealing with
this in a christ like manner. help!

By: troubledyoungman

troubledyoungman — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 23:03:36 +0000

well im not sure what to say im 18 and experienced gay culture for bout 3 months (clubs, support groups, and constant encounters with random men) i literally lived for sex…it was all i did and spent my time doing but it left me empty and alone and full of fear cause ive always known homosexuality was wrong since i was a child i actually hated it when i was young i was sick to my stomach to see a gay man…sadly a few years later i became a flaming one now im trying to serve God and let go of everything gay so to speak ive been through alot of deliverance and to be honest my attraction to men has somewhat stopped but its like i always feel like somethings missing i ask God to but it lasts only temperarily then im thinking about men again i know how to suppress the feelings and keep away yet deep down i still feel like thats who i am sometimes i think im crazy or God has left me…but i know alot has happened to prove he hasnt i just want to feel completely free…im trying so hard to see myself as a sane, christian, young man but its so difficult

By: So-Cali_Student

So-Cali_Student — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 07:55:01 +0000

Hey Roger,
did you sign up for http://forums.livehope.org . thats a great site to interact a little easier with everyone and share your story and listen to others. Im sure you can get some answers as to ministries in England on that forum i posted the link to. It is nice being able to talk to others so openly and freely and express your emotions in such a free way. check it out.